MY HUSBAND CARES MORE ABOUT AN APPLE TREE THAN OUR BABY — I SECRETLY DUG UP THE ROOT AND WAS FROZEN WHEN I SAW WHAT WAS INSIDE
I honestly don’t know what to do with my husband anymore. Ladies, please tell me if I’m overreacting, or if I’ve really married a man who never grew up.
My husband, Jason Miller, is turning 30 this year. We’ve been married for just over a year and recently welcomed our first child, a baby boy named Lucas. From the outside, our life looks perfectly normal: a small apartment in suburban Ohio, stable jobs, a newborn baby.
But living with Jason day after day has made me realize one painful truth —
I didn’t marry a man. I married a grown-up child.
A HUSBAND WHO NEVER LEARNED RESPONSIBILITY
When we were dating, Jason’s childish side felt cute. He was funny, carefree, always joking. I told myself, “Men can be a little immature. Love will change him.”
I was wrong.
Jason hates chores — or rather, he does them in the laziest way possible. Cleaning means wiping the table and ignoring everything else. Cooking means doing the bare minimum and calling it “efficient living.”
That attitude followed him straight into marriage.
THE ‘FISH PORRIDGE’ THAT SENT ME RUNNING TO THE BATHROOM
When I was pregnant, I had terrible morning sickness. I read online that fish porridge was good for the baby, so one evening I asked Jason to cook it for me.
He looked confident.
“Easy,” he said. “Go lie down. I’ve got this.”
Thirty minutes later, a strange fishy smell filled the apartment. Jason proudly brought me a bowl.
Inside was plain white porridge, topped with a whole piece of boiled fish — skin on, smell intact.
I stared at it.
“You… cooked it like this?”
“Yeah,” he replied seriously. “Porridge is porridge. Fish is fish. Why mix them?”
Before I could argue, my stomach turned violently. I barely made it to the bathroom before throwing up.
Jason stood outside the door, scratching his head.
“I thought simpler would be better…”
HE INSISTED ON WATCHING THE BIRTH — AND FAINTED
When it was time for me to give birth, Jason insisted on being in the delivery room.
“I’ve watched tons of videos,” he said confidently. “Childbirth isn’t that scary.”
At first, he stood beside me, eyes wide, observing everything like a medical student. But as the labor progressed, his face slowly drained of color.
He stared too closely. Too long.
Then —
BAM.
Jason collapsed onto the floor.
The room went into chaos. Doctors were delivering my baby while nurses rushed my husband out for emergency care.
I gave birth to our son while my husband was unconscious in the next room.
When Jason finally woke up and saw me holding Lucas, his face was still pale.
“I didn’t know… there would be that much blood…”
A FATHER WHO DOESN’T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIS OWN BABY
After Lucas was born, Jason tried to help — but everything he did was awkward.
He forgot to shake formula bottles. Put diapers on crooked. Held the baby like he was afraid Lucas might shatter.
Still, I told myself: He’s learning. Give him time.
Until recently, when Jason started behaving… strangely.
THE APPLE TREE ON THE BALCONY
About a month ago, Jason came home with a small apple tree in a pot.
“We live in an apartment,” I said.
“It’s cute,” he replied. “Maybe one day it’ll give us apples.”
From that day on, Jason became obsessed with the tree.
Every night, he spent 30 minutes on the balcony, watering it, wiping the leaves, loosening the soil. Meanwhile, our baby cried inside — and I handled everything alone.
Once, I asked him for help.
“Lucas won’t stop crying.”
“Wait a minute,” he said. “I need to finish watering the tree.”
That’s when suspicion crept into my heart.
A man who cared more about a tree than his own child was hiding something.
WHAT I FOUND BURIED UNDER THE ROOTS
Yesterday, Jason left for work early. After putting Lucas to sleep, I couldn’t shake the feeling anymore.
I went to the balcony and examined the pot. The soil looked disturbed — like it had been dug up repeatedly.
I grabbed a small shovel and started digging.
Not far down, my shovel hit something soft.
I pulled it out.
A black plastic bag, tightly wrapped.
My hands shook as I opened it.
Inside was cash.
I sat on the balcony floor, heart pounding, counting again and again.
$5,000.
I felt dizzy. Where did this money come from? Why hide it under an apple tree?
THE NIGHT EVERYTHING EXPLODED
That evening, Jason came home and stepped onto the balcony. He froze when he saw the disturbed soil.
“WHAT HAPPENED TO MY TREE?” he shouted.
I walked out, holding our baby.
“I dug it up.”
Jason’s face turned white.
“Why… why would you do that?”
“I wanted to know what you were hiding.”
When I placed the bag of money on the table, Jason collapsed into a chair, hands clutching his head.
THE TRUTH THAT BROKE MY HEART
Jason finally confessed.
The money was something he’d secretly saved over months — bonuses, side jobs, money he kept hidden because he didn’t want me to “use it for family expenses.”
His plan?
To buy a new gaming console worth nearly $6,000.
His eyes lit up as he spoke.
“I’ve wanted it for years. I was so close.”
I felt my throat tighten.
“You’re a husband. You’re a father,” I said quietly.
“I know… but I’m still young,” he muttered.
A SLEEPLESS NIGHT
That night, I held my son and cried silently.
I wasn’t angry about the money.
I was angry because my husband never truly grew up.
He cared for a tree, hid money like a child hiding candy, all for a selfish dream — while his wife and newborn struggled right beside him.
WHAT SHOULD I DO, LADIES?
I don’t want a divorce.
But I also don’t want to spend my life being my husband’s second mother.
So tell me, ladies —
Can a man like this ever grow up?
Or do some men only age… without ever learning responsibility?
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
