When I found out I was pregnant, I was overjoyed and believed this was a chance for my husband and me to start over. We had been separated for over six months, but I always thought there was still hope between us. I was sure that if I just told him about the baby, he would reconsider.

I prepared meticulously, chose a beautiful day, bought some of his favorite foods, and went to find him with great anticipation. But when I stood in front of his house, I discovered a pair of unfamiliar women’s shoes neatly placed next to his.

I froze. A feeling of unease welled up inside me. But I reassured myself: “It could be his sister or a friend.” I took a deep breath and knocked on the door.

A moment later, the door opened. It wasn’t my husband, but a young woman in a nightgown, both of them embracing passionately.

I was shocked to see the strange woman in the house. (Illustrative image)

She looked at me in surprise, but quickly regained her composure:

“Who are you looking for?”

I was speechless. Faced with this situation, I didn’t know how to respond.

At that moment, my husband came out of the house, wearing comfortable pajamas. His eyes widened slightly when he saw me. But there was no sign of joy or emotion. On the contrary, he frowned, his voice cold:

“Why did you come here?”

I felt like my world was falling apart. I had expected him to ask about my well-being, to hold me close when he learned I was pregnant. But all I got was his annoyed and distant gaze.

I clutched the bag tightly in my hand, feeling as if my heart was being squeezed. Trying to control my trembling voice, I said:

“I’m pregnant.”

That statement brought an eerie silence to the room. The other woman looked surprised, while my husband let out a cold laugh.

“Pregnant?” He smirked. “So what? We’ve been separated for over six months, what makes you so sure the baby is mine?”

I was stunned, tears welling up in my eyes. I never thought that one day the man who used to be my husband could doubt me to this extent.

I recoiled, my whole body trembling.

“What do you mean by that?”

He crossed his arms in front of his chest, his voice indifferent:

“I mean, don’t expect to use the baby to tie me down. I have my own life, you should leave me alone.”

I was speechless. That statement was like a knife stabbing straight into my heart.

The woman beside him smiled softly, linking her arm intimately with his, as if to declare her ownership. I stood still for a long time, then suddenly snapped out of my daze. I didn’t need to beg a man who had already wanted to push me out of his life.

I took a deep breath, placed my bag by the door, and turned to leave. No clinging, no pleading, not a word of complaint. I thought the child in my womb would be the thread connecting us. But in reality, that thread broke the day he decided to end this marriage. I once thought I could start over with him. But now I understand. What I need to start over is my own life, without him.

I walked in the cold wind, my hand unconsciously resting on my stomach. In that moment, I realized I had nothing left to hold onto, but I still had a tiny life growing inside me.

Being pregnant without a husband by my side will undoubtedly be an incredibly difficult journey. I will face countless challenges, from morning sickness and going to prenatal appointments alone to the loneliness of being alone during labor. But perhaps this child will be the motivation for me to become stronger, to learn to love myself, and to become a resilient mother.

This heartfelt message was sent by a reader with the email address: linhnghi…@gmail.com

What are the difficulties of choosing to get pregnant without a husband’s support?

Pregnancy is a sacred but also challenging journey. For women who choose to carry a pregnancy without their husbands, the difficulties are compounded. They face immense pressure not only physically but also mentally. Below are some common challenges expectant mothers will experience:

1. Mental stress and loneliness

Without their husbands by their side, expectant mothers can easily fall into feelings of loneliness and sadness as they witness moments that they should have shared together, from the first ultrasound and the baby’s first movements to the day of birth.

– Lack of comfort and support: When faced with fluctuating emotions due to hormones, mothers are more susceptible to stress and depression.

– Pressure from family and society: If a woman becomes pregnant out of wedlock or has to be a single mother, she may face judgment and pressure from family and those around her.

2. Financial burden

Raising children requires not only love but also a stable financial source. Without a husband by her side, a mother must manage everything herself, from prenatal checkups and preparing baby supplies to covering the costs of raising a child afterward.

– Medical expenses: The cost of prenatal checkups, medication, and childbirth can be a significant burden without financial support.

– Lack of financial support: If the mother is working, she may face a reduction in income during maternity leave.

3. Difficulties in childbirth and raising a child alone.

The moment of labor is when a mother needs a loved one by her side the most, but without her husband, she may have to manage everything on her own.

Who will take Mom to the hospital when she goes into labor?

– After giving birth, who will help the mother take care of the baby in the first few days?

– Who will help when the mother is exhausted after sleepless nights caring for her child?

4. Overcome feelings of inferiority when seeing other people’s families.

It’s hard not to feel a pang of sadness when you see other happy families—fathers eagerly awaiting the arrival of their children, couples going to prenatal checkups together. Mothers may feel a sense of loss, hurt, and wonder if their own children are being deprived.